Relationships blossom when narcissism recedes. The term narcissist is all over the internet, often used unhelpfully as a term of abuse. We all have narcissistic traits, indeed we need to have some level of investment in ourselves to survive. But narcissistic people are self absorbed, they protect themselves to the to the exclusion of others. We may say they have a thick skin. A thin skinned narcissist has what is described as a borderline personality, reacting strongly to per

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If we are too focused on safety and remaining comfortable, we lose the experiences that make our short time on this planet so wonderful.

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